Friends Dating Places

Remember when you were younger and you used to have to sneak back into your house so your parents didn’t notice just how late you were getting in? Well imagine having to go through that all over again, but instead of trying to sneak in because of your parents, you’re trying to sneak in because you don’t want the neighbor you boned to see you and engage in awkward conversation.

When it comes to pooping where you eat, the worst place you can do it is in your neighborhood.

These two pooped where they eat.

We’ve all gotten to that point in our search for dating where we’re thisclose to giving up on what we really want and settling for what’s easy. And, unfortunately, sometimes that means banging the guy that lives across the hall who is always awkwardly hitting on you in the elevator.

It’s human nature to want to get it in every now and then, but doing it in a place where you’re going to constantly run into them is a dangerous idea.

The biggest ‘don’t do it because’ reason would have to be feelings. No, not yours, theirs. To you it may be a one time thing to get your jollies on and get going, but to them it could mean something a lot more. How do you know that guy you’re bringing into your place hasn’t had a crush on you for the last 5 years? And that every time you see him from then on out he won’t be hurt and offended that you’re not as into it as he would have assumed. Once feelings get involved, it’s not easy to turn them off.

It’s going to be awkward on a daily basis even if you both know it was just sex, but it’s going to be even more awkward when you bring the new guy you’re dating home and you have to parade him past your ex-lay.

There are plenty of ways for you to find someone to share a bed with, so go out of your way to find someone who’s not close to home.

There’s a lot of stigma that comes along with making grand romantic gestures. Guys have the easy end of the stick, since when they do something over the top for love, it’s seen as romantic and extremely thoughtful. Women, on the other hand, don’t have it as easily. They can do the exact same gesture as a guy, in the exact same way, but instead of being romantic, it’s often looked at as weird and desperate. Now that it’s 2011, things have changed… Right?

Well, let’s use public proposals as an example. As someone who lives in Hollywood, the flashiest city in the world, and has spent a lot of time in Central Park in NYC, I’ve seen my share of public proposals. Full string quartets, horses and carriages, bill boards bought out, fake movie previews being shown featuring the story of their love… You name it, I’ve seen it. And it always ends the same way– The girl starts crying and half-laughing out of surprise as he puts the ring on her finger, the guy either yelling out ‘SHE SAID YES!’ or taking her in for an embrace– exactly what you’d expect out of a proposal. Two people excited that their search for dating is over for good.

But those were all proposals from men to women.

This crowd got to see a proposal...

...totally get rejected.

I’ve only heard about one public proposal from a woman to a man. Although I’m sure it’s happened before, it can’t happen that often, since I’ve never seen it, and it’s never publicized on the internet. But the one that was on the internet went viral pretty fast, because it was a BIG fail. A woman in China proposed to the guy she’d been dating for a few years in a very public way. She parked her car in a popular spot, had a big sign on the windshield that said ‘MARRY ME’ (well, really it said ‘ME MARRY,’ but we can chalk that up to a mistake), and held a bouquet of roses for him as she waited on the hood of her car. The crowd of people that gathered around her to see his reaction was big, but it was no where near as big as the disappointment she must have felt when he eventually showed up and turned down the proposal.

I’m not saying that women shouldn’t make big, romantic gestures in relationships, but just make sure you really, really, really think he’s going to appreciate it, or you may wind up on top of your car alone with roses and no one to give them to.

When friends dating take that first big jump, there’s a lot you have to think about– How is this going to effect the friendship? Will we be able to stay friends if it doesn’t work out? Are things going to be awkward between us if we take it any further?– But, unfortunately, you won’t actually know until you give it a shot. So if you put your friendship on the line and the first kiss is much more sour than it is sweet, should you just call it a day on your romance and just stay friends?

In a survey done by US Weekly’s website, only 15% of people say that their first kiss with their current partner was a good one!

The fact is nerves get to people. When it’s a regular first kiss, you’re worried that your teeth will clink, worried your paces won’t match up… Worried over just about everything. When it’s a first kiss between friends, you have much more to think about. What’s going to happen after the kiss? Is the friendship changed forever? With so much on your mind to distract you, you’re setting yourself up to have a bad kiss.

If the first kiss goes bad, don’t give up there. If you’re considering dating them, there has to be reason for it other than their lips. Keep those reasons in mind to get you through the first few awkward initial physical interactions.

If you want to be more relaxed in an attempt to make that first kiss memorable, prepare yourself in advanced! Get all of the ‘what if’ questions out of the way before you decide to do it, moisturize your lips so they’re soft and you aren’t self conscious about them, and pop in a mint before the big event! If it goes good, that’s great! If it doesn’t, you’ll always have another chance to make it better.