Let’s be clear here: I’m not talking The Bachelor style dating where you take a group of women on the same date and at the end only give the winner a rose. It’s such a bad idea that I’m not even sure how it’s a television show, and quite frankly it sounds kind of illegal.
If you’re taking someone you met on your free dating sites and you’re going to meet them for the first time, you can feel a lot of pressure. There’s tips and tricks to that first meeting, like doing it in a public place and somewhere you can distract yourselves if the conversation ever goes south, but those are usually mundane places that don’t add much of a spark to that first date.
A great way to relieve that pressure and still have a good time is to bring that person to a group setting. Most people’s biggest worry for the first date is how they’re going to keep the conversation going smoothly. When you’re with a group of friends, you always have someone to lean back on when there’s an awkward pause. You don’t need to be thinking about the next thing to say, because chances are someone already has that covered.
If you’re going to walk the group date line, make sure you’ve told your date! There’s no bigger buzz kill than thinking you’re going to get some one-on-one time only to realize that you’re surrounded by people. If you think this is going to be best dating dynamic for the two of you, let her know that you have friends that know a certain area very well who have offered to show the two of you around. This won’t only impress her that you’ve gone so far out of your way, but it may relax her as well, knowing that she won’t be meeting a stranger alone for the first time.
Make sure that you’re always being inclusive! She may feel uncomfortable if you’re focusing all your attention on her, and she’ll be really uncomfortable if you’re putting it all on your friends. Talk in rounds, have some fun, and enjoy the date! If it’s going better than you thought, you can always sneak away for a little alone time.