When making a first impression on free dating sites, your only option is to send a message. Even if you write the most heart felt, witty, charming message in the history of online dating, spelling mistakes will still stand out.
I’ve had people message me in the past and, guilty, I’ve messaged people before without hitting the spellcheck button, but then I realized that trying to date someone online is kind of like sending off resumes. This is my first impression for someone with something that I really want, why would I not make sure I’m putting my best foot forward?
I’ve since refined my search for dating because not only did I start noticing my mistakes, I also noticed the mistakes in messages that people were sending me. You’re a law graduate from UCLA? Really? Then why did your message read “I really like you’re profile!”? People have a hard time trusting strangers they’re talking to for the first time, and small things like spelling mistakes can mislead them about both your background and your intelligence level. It’s hard to believe that someone with a strong academic background with make such simple mistakes.
While we’re on the subject of grammar in messages, I have a personal pet peeve that I want you to avoid: Don’t treat them like they’re text messages! No one wants to get an inbox message like ‘i like ur profile. do u want 2 talk sumtime?’. It’s very impersonal and doesn’t fit the circumstances properly. If a girl gets a message like that, her first thoughts are going to be he probably sent this message to everyone, and I’m not going to waste my time messaging him back. People can tell when you’re being sincere online and when you’re just trying to run the game to get a date. Grammar and spelling is important because not only does it show that you truly are an intelligent person, but also that you are willing to take the time to present yourself properly.
The truth is, usually when people send off messages, they do them quickly and spelling mistakes happen out of laziness and simple overlooks. Spell check is free and a great way to put a small improvement on your message. Do yourself the favor of running a quick review of your messages before sending them off. After all, you only have one shot at a first impression!