While a lot of people are looking online for everything from casual sexual encounters to long-term romantic hookups very few of us really know the very basics…like how to get a good picture to go with an online personal, how to really talk to someone if they begin speaking over mike, how long we have to wait between meeting someone online and making a suggestion to meet them off. A lot of our online hesitation also comes from our inability to really compliment someone proficiently, and only making clumsy stabs at sexual compliments.
A lot of people don’t like it when someone approaches them with nothing but crude or offensive language – complimenting them only on their body or face. We all want to know that our online personals are attractive in word and picture and even if the person you’ve found is indeed looking for a sexual encounter just talking about that, and nothing else, can come off as being insensitive. It is much better to compliment someone you are flirting with and trying to connect with in a way that is kind and conscientious and if you are making a comment about someone’s looks keeping things fun and benign, like saying someone has a cute smile or rugged good looks.
Another good way of opening a door for communication is to compliment someone on the way they wrote their personals, outfitted their profile, even the words they use in chat. The way someone attempts to communicate, whether through personals online or even texting says lots about them so why not go to the source and be a little complimentary about how they are communicating and not just what they are communicating?
There is a limit to what we can say and do online and we must work hard through these limitations to get our point across, naughty or nice, direct or round-about, writing or reading online personals, profiles and words we write or read in chat.
Compliments work wonders online if they are well reasoned and placed.