Sometimes we can have friends that we really care about quite a bit, and they end up being friends with benefits. Often the relationship is actually even deeper than a romantic relationship because the couple started out being true friends. They end up being people that we can really confide in, tell our deepest and darkest secrets to, and share with in ways that we can’t with other friends that we are not intimate with.
It may not make sense that two people like that aren’t in love with each other and having a romantic relationship, but sometimes this type of friendship can actually transcend a romantic relationship or last quite a bit longer than the average marriage. Being a great match as friends or even friends with benefits does not preclude that the couple would be a great match for anything more than that. While in a friend’s with benefits relationship, there can be deep love between the two people, but a friend love instead of a romantic love, and the friend love is often the stronger and longer lasting of the two.
It’s amazing to develop that kind of deep friendship with someone. It’s rare and something to be cherished by both parties. Having that level of trust and respect between two people is a very special thing, and it’s something not often seen in most mainstream marriages. Being able to have sex with that person in addition to that deep level of friendship is even more special. So many people have relationships that keep those things separate – the friendship and the love – but it’s not necessary. With the right people and great communication, people can have both, and sometimes it can actually develop into a romantic relationship. When that happens, it can end up feeling like the most amazing relationship ever because both parties have already developed trust and respect for each other and the foundation of any great relationship starts right there.