Your friends can effect almost every aspect of your life. From the music you listen to, to how you spend your free time, friends influence everything in your day-to-day life. So with that knowledge, is it likely they’ll negatively effect your dating life if their dating history is a disaster? To make a long answer short, it all depends on how you treat that friendship.
When people have a problem in their relationship, they turn to their friends for advice. Whether it be a small argument or a big fight, people tend to find it therapeutic to talk through their issues with an uninvolved third party like a friend. When you bring those problems to a divorcee, there’s a chance that they’ve been tainted by their failed relationship and their advice could be negative because of it. If they’ve had a similar experience, they may give you advice on how they handled the situation, but taking that advice probably wouldn’t be in your best interest. If they’re divorced, it means that whatever they did to solve their problem failed them, and will most likely fail you too.
On the other hand hearing how they handled the situation may be a way for you to learn from their mistakes without having to make them yourself. Relationships are trial and error. You take what you’ve learned from past relationships and bring that knowledge into your current one– You cut out what you didn’t like and what didn’t work for you, and you amplify what did work and what you enjoyed. Wouldn’t life be easier if you could do all the negative learning via a surrogate? Hearing what happened to your divorced friends can lead you down the opposite path, which may lead you to your own success instead of their failure.
Divorced friends won’t negatively influence your life if you don’t let them. They may still be on a dating search, but if you’re happy in your relationship, you shouldn’t feel pressured to join them.
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