All couples have different expectations for what is and isn’t acceptable. Some people think not calling their spouse for the entire day is alright, and other couples would spark a fight because of it. Some still think the women should cook and clean, and now you have households with stay at home dads. Out of all the different opinions you find now, there’s generally still one thing most people expect in a relationship: Monogamy. In a time where almost 80% of divorces are attributed to infidelity, is a monogamist relationship simply too much to ask?
Last year Life Magazine looked into the every day of different couples who lead different lifestyles. The three main couples were a pair who have been dating for two year but were celibate and waiting for marriage, a couple who has been married for 10 years and are in a monogamist relationship, and a duo who have been together for 25 years and have an open relationship. Out of the three couples, not only was the couple with the open relationship happier, but they were more successful in their jobs and had a better home life as well.
We spend most of our relationships wondering if the other person is going to cheat on us, if they already have, jealous of other people they talk to, and angry that they’re flirting with other people. All the hostility we have against them is all rooted in monogamy. If we just eliminated that issue, would we all be happier in our relationships?
It’s never been easier to find someone to be unfaithful with. There are entire dating websites dedicated towards people who are looking to step out on their spouse. If we all accepted it as a regular part of a relationship, things might be a bit easier on everyone. But a fair warning– If you are planning on having an open relationship, make sure you talk it through first! Having a couple with two different opinions on what an ‘open relationship’ consists of, and that could end up causing more problems than it’s solving.
Monogamy will never fully disappear since you can’t really have a traditional couple without it, but saying goodbye to it for now may be what saves your relationship.