There’s a few things a girlfriend can do that cross the line. Making you leave when the party is just getting good, talking through the winning touchdown of the Superbowl, being ‘too tired’ for three weeks in a row… The annoying things you expect a girlfriend to do. But if she starts interrupting your other friendships, then you have yourself a problem.
Jealousy is a fickle game, but it’s an easy one to fall into. When friends dating have a close social circle, it’s easy for them to know how you interact with your female friends, but if you met her through an online dating search, chances are she doesn’t understand your relationship with other people. You telling her that you’re going to spend time with your girlfriends may raise red flags with her, despite how platonic your relationship may be.
If your girlfriend gets jealous when you’re out with girl-friends, you need to set some ground rules.
- Get your girlfriend to meet your girl-friends.
The easiest way to get your girlfriend to see that there’s nothing romantic going on between you and your friends is by introducing them to her. If she gets the chance to see how chummy (and non-flirty) you are with them, she’ll be more relaxed when you want to spend time with them.
- Don’t take your girl-friends to places you won’t take your girlfriend.
If your girlfriend is dying to see the new Ashton Kutcher movie and you’ve refused to go, it’s probably not a good idea to go see it with someone else. Taking your friends places that you refuse to take your girlfriend will look like favoritism, which will inevitably fuel her jealousy.
- Try to hang out with them in public places.
If your girlfriend already has a problem with you being alone with other girls, it’s not going to make it easier on her if you’re meeting them in quite, private places. Going to their house where the two of you will be alone will only promote her imagine to think the worst. Try meeting somewhere like a coffee shop. It’s quiet enough for you both to talk, and isn’t a romantic location, so your girlfriend shouldn’t have a problem with it.
If you try to accommodate her feelings and she still has a problem with you hanging out with other females alone, then she has some major trust issues! Although you may like being with her, thrust issues are things that can only be worked out solo, so give her space until she’s ready to accept your entire your friend roster, not just your male ones.