We’ve all done the rebound before. You get out of a serious relationship and waste no time starting the hunt for a short fling to blow off some steam. Just because your heart’s broken doesn’t mean your bedroom life has to be too, right?
Studies have proven that rebounds are one of the best ways to quickly get over an ex, second only to getting a new job. The endorphins you release in the bedroom will help fight off depression, and the companionship you’ll feel while sleeping with someone will keep your mind off your new ex.
So what are the rules to rebounding? Sure you’re no longer committed to your ex, but you don’t want to hurt them in the process, and more importantly you don’t want to hurt yourself. There’s a few things to keep in mind during rebounds to make sure they’ll help you, and not hurt you.
Never rebound with a mutual friend of your ex! Friends dating is a great idea when the circumstances allow it, and ‘rebound’ is never a right circumstance. Not only are you jeopardizing your friendship with the friend, you’re also jeopardizing their friendship with your entire circle. If you and your ex have a lot of similar friends, chances are they aren’t going to want to take sides in the break up, but if you sleep with one of them, a side is clearly taken. This won’t just anger your ex, it’s likely to anger your entire circle of friends. If you’re interested in seducing a friend, make sure you’re over the rebound stage and all wounds are healed from your break up before you do.
Try to find someone outside of your ‘type’ to get together with. Rebounds are meant to be a quick distraction, not a permanent fix, so you’re not looking for someone you could spend your life with. In avoiding your type, you’re likely to avoid physical features and personality traits that your ex might possess, which will insure they won’t pop into your mind at the wrong time.
Don’t publicize it. You’ve found someone you’re sleeping with every night only days after your break up? Good for you! It’ll do great things for your mood. But friends who enjoyed you and your ex as a couple (and your ex them self) won’t feel too great if you parade the new hottie you’re dating in front of them. Instead of claiming they’re the best thing that’s happened to you since you-know-who, keep that secret in your bedroom and enjoy it in private.
Most importantly, don’t set restrictions on your rebound! Saying you’re only going to let it last x-amount of time will make you focus on the deadline, and allow you to get discouraged at the thought you’re going to be back at square one. Sure you don’t want it to last forever, but who says it can’t last a few months? Let it play out naturally and you’ll be able to enjoy it more.
The most important thing about rebounds is to ensure you’re not putting yourself in a position to get hurt. Rebounding with a former ex or someone you’ve been interested in for a long time can lead to old feelings getting kicked up, and can leave you even more heartbroken that you were to start.
Find someone fun, find someone sexy, and find someone who will be able to keep up!
